Still trying to soke in the trembling peacefulness and wisdom greater than moral reasoning – taught by bön teacher Tenzin Wangyal Rinpoche during the past days in Helsinki.
There’s so much I’d love to share, but I’ll write something about what was lectured on compassion. Empathy seems to be such a hot topic today – even for academic research and business leaders. According to T.W.R. compassion is still a bit misunderstood and misused concept, too.
To start with, T.W. Rinpoche talked a lot about individual identity, about how pain is created by this spesific "sense of I" (identity), and what is the relationship between this pain and compassion.
In short, T. W. Rinpoche explained, that if we (people) do not deal profoundly enough with our own inner “root” pain, we only end up looking this world through our own pain, reacting to the world through this same pain – and creating only more pain to this planet. Although we, of course, think ourselves all the time that WE are making the world A BETTER place.
T.W.R. explained how so many people mix up compassion with their own pain. It often happens, that these same people accuse other people of not being compassionate or sensible enough (rings a bell, huh?). But by doing this, they only create another reflection of that same problem, where their own ability to self-reflection has not yet erased the need to highlight one’s own “superior” identity / sense of I / source of pain / in relation to others.
Many might think now, that well it is better to jugde an extreme right-wing rasist (or a suicide bomber), than to accept one.... Or that it is still better to blast about a better diet, political party, religion, or belief-system than to let other people destroy the world, “our” culture or the chance for peace by living like the do... But is it?
T.W.R showed us, how conflict and pain are basically always of the same source.
True compassion rises always of the state of total peacefulness and spaceousness (mostly created by practises that help us to come back to this natural state of nonreactive Being).
True compassion lacks all judgement. The more one thinks about it, the easier it is to agree with it: that is the only sustainable way to change the world. (Makes me wanna think about Nelson Mandela, who according to a legend was practising compassion towards his guards in prison in a way, that eventually they had to switch the guards all the time because none of them wanted to harm Mandela in any way.)
When people say that they are compassionate / spiritual / loving / helping the world in the name of their own –ism – and that the others should just “get it” – according to this ancient Tibetan buddhist philosophy, it is just another, well-dressed way to re-new and throw around the pain & conflict inside of ourselves.
Real compassion is openess for what is. It is not experiencing pain in yourself nor experiencing pain for others, nor fighting “for the good” to change the world.
To reach the state of being in the 1st sentence it is 100 0000 harder than we can imagine. But like said, the only sustainable way to change the world. That is why we practice.
Mia Jokiniva / HH